October 22, 2011

coexistence of love and friendship

"What if we become so comfortable that the love we feel for each other is not the romantic feeling anymore?"

I thought about this one night, and really asked baby boo the exact same question. It took me two mugs of beer to have the courage to speak my mind because I was afraid to be proven right. That moment, I didn't know what I wanted to hear from him, or what I wanted him to do in response to my query. He just held my hand, kissed it, and made the uncertainty fade away.

As I always say, more than a couple, Daryl and I are best friends. In five years that we've been together, we have developed a friendship which I know would last a lifetime. Beyond the kilig, what's more important is the assurance that whatever happens, or however things turn out, we have each other. Our relationship is indeed something. Yes, I am in love with my best friend.

We share about our individual mistakes, and we usually boast about our achievements for the day, but we don't judge. Bolahan days are gone, so everything's plain honesty. I say he's self-centered, he says I lack the drive. But, we don't hate; we appreciate. Many times before, I called him crying, breaking down over the phone. But he does not comfort; he makes me realize things.

We watch a movie together, but don't get all cuddly anymore. We laugh, cry, and critic together. And the best part of watching a movie with him? I get free hand and foot massage! :)))

We dine out, and just eat and eat all we want. I don't mind if I eat more than he does, sometimes :p We share expenses, and I'm not shy to ask 50 pesos from him because I have no cash on hand and I need to replenish my tic-tac supply. Plus, I get to keep the change. Hehe

I can say he's baduy, and he can say I look like a farmer. But we won't change outfits.

I can keep citing instances but I guess you get my point already. I wouldn't have thought about the question above if I didn't realize how comfortable we already are with each other. It wasn't alarming, really. I just usually over think. Or maybe because we spend more time building our own careers as of now.

At our present stage, I don't demand (that much anymore) for time, nor does he. In effect, we cherish the 15-minute meet ups or the 1-hour lunch or dinner dates more than ever. Perhaps it's the maturity that we learned to acquire through time. But whatever, I'm happy with how our relationship evolved.

We were purely batch mates back in high school, but we developed a friendship as we were getting to know each other deeper.

Don't get me wrong. I love my boyfriend, but I am in love with my best friend :)



Love and friendship co-exist, and I call it the "baby boo relationship" <3